I thought to write a blog on it, but this word itself gives many different conceptions to every individual so defining it in an omniscient way will be out of the scope of my intelligence. The set of relation starts defining before our birth as the parents, their family and siblings (if any). We don’t have any control on this fundamental set though it plays a crucial role in defining rest of our relations in the later life. As a child grows, it learns the world wisdom and deals with different ‘wanted and unwanted’ people in the life- your best teacher, Bully in the class or crooked neighbors…
As adolescence starts a new image of relation takes shape- spouse, then a series of new learning and experiences begins (some people stays at the edge to wait for an ideal time and person). After the understandings of basic lessons e.g. ‘All that glitters is not gold’, an ideal image of a partner is formed. Actually vast majority of people can spend their whole life at this step, since every time you are dealing with an element of unknown set of relation. But principle of maximum entropy works here, the information gain reduces the gap (Caution: Excess information may results in white and red noise too). Truthfully, there is hardly any heuristic scheme which can optimize this problem and get you the best solution.
Indians have designed their own process to make final decision for this relation. The older version was quite similar to the ‘blood relations’ – a surprise package chosen by the parents. The modified version is –you may get experiences but let the final decision announced by the parents or horoscope or castes etc., similar to ancient version. This high-tech generation, who has crossed the seas, dreamt higher than the sky has to rely on the others for the final selection of partner. In this scenario the ultimate goal – to get a life mate, who will be with you through thick and thin of life (people wait till their ‘best materialistic time’ when they can get the best from others), may be compromised but the rigid way by which Indian marriages are defined make them stable.
Regardless of chosen or imposed destiny, this relation of ‘man – woman’ is the part of next 30 – 40 years of life in most of cases. A new nest, a new series of relations starts. Any ‘happy or even not so happy’ couple of 20 – 30 years old relationship, reminds the commitment of that single moment when they swore ‘to live together’. They have crossed all the charms and chasms of this relation and live with an inclination of ‘each other’.
